Transforming Relationships

At Relationship By Design, our work is based on the premise that transformation occurs when you confront reality exactly as it is. Once you stop resisting reality and attempting to fix or improve it, you experience peace, freedom and an opening for creativity in your...
Mathematics

The Mathematics of Relationship

If you  were to describe a human relationship simply as one person plus another, you would receive little argument from anyone. It's the way people think. The way people ordinarily look at relationships can be described mathematically as 1 + 1. A relationship is one...
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A Relationship Isn’t a Title

Families can sometimes seem complicated. But the experience of family is really quite simple... and profound. When we were married in 2004, Paul had a stepdaughter by his previous wife, who had died just two years earlier. While I wanted to be a mother to his...
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Your Experience of Relationship

Your experience of relationship is all a matter of where you are standing and looking from. Often we are so intrigued by what we are looking at that we fail to appreciate that what we see is determined by where we are looking from. You will discover more about...
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Relationships and Money

This month we led an Exploring Extraordinary Relationships workshop in Kauai, Hawaii. The topic was Relationships and Money. One of the questions we began with was, “Why is money almost always an issue in relationships, even when there’s no shortage of money?”...
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Breaking Through vs. Backing Out

Something beyond the ordinary is possible, and can happen, when you persist through a “down time”. Whether you were pleased with the outcome of the 2017 edition of the NFL Super Bowl or not, you have to acknowledge that the New England Patriots didn’t quit when the...

Wants and needs in relationships

You are pushing a boulder uphill if you think your significant other is going to anticipate all of your wants and needs and fill them. Do you even know exactly what your wants and needs are? They are ever changing. You live in a FOMO (fear of missing out) world. Your...

The power of commitment

"Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: That the moment one definitely...

Common concerns in relationships

As you begin a new year (which, when you think about it, you do each day), we wish you lots of experiences of freedom, ease and fulfillment in your relationships. During the year you will likely run into issues and concerns from time to time. Many of these concerns...

What Money Workshop participants said

From November 14-20, 2015 we had an outstanding Exploring Extraordinary Relationship workshop in our favorite resort in Los Cabos, Mexico. The topic of this explore was Money in Relationships. Here's what our participants had to say about it! "We saw the possibility...

Money and relationships

We recently completed an extraordinary workshop in Los Cabos, Mexico exploring the mechanisms of money in relationships. It became clear that money is an issue at some time or another in every relationship. No relationship escapes unscathed by concerns about money. In...

Impeccability in Relationships

What is the foundation for relationships? Is it love, affinity, shared values and/or interests? No! Those are the background, not the basis, for relationships. The foundation for relationships is promises. Relationships stand on the promises made with each other....

More great workshop feedback!

Here's what participants said about their experience in our September Extraordinary Relationship: A New Paradigm workshop in Silver Spring, Maryland. “What stood out for us was the ease with which things that have felt remarkably difficult to talk about not only got...

Speaking for the future of your relationships

When you speak about your relationships, do you speak about the past, the present or the future? Think about how you speak; listen to yourself for a while. As you become aware of it, you may be surprised by the extent to which you unconsciously project the past into...

Promises Promises

Why make promises? We have often asserted that, while the context or background for a relationship may be love, or affection, or a common interest, the basis for all relationships is commitment – a promise or set of promises. But while promises may initially be used...

Relationship in action

 “It is important that you get clear for yourself that your only access to impacting life is action. The world does not care what you intend, how committed you are, how you feel or what you think; and certainly it has no interest in what you want and don’t want. Take...

Great feedback from our workshop participants!

We just completed the Extraordinary Relationship: A New Paradigm workshop in Evergreen, CO in July, and we love what our participants wrote to us! The following series of comments are from both partners in a relatively new relationship. First... Sandy/Lon- The...

What’s in the way of relationships being extraordinary?

One of the most difficult things for us to be with when working with people in their relationships is to watch them literally produce barriers between each other as they speak. We listen to them talk about [their individual interpretations of] past happenings,...

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