I Want This Relationship to Last!

(Thoughts on enduring relationships, from Carol & Paul) When we began our love affair, we weren’t a couple of teenagers in love – although we acted that way sometimes. We were both 55; we had four marriages behind us that had ended in divorce or death; and we...

When is it Time to Leave a Relationship?

You will probably find as many different answers to the question as the number of people you ask, even though some may be similar.   But the question begs another question that is worthwhile considering, a question to which only you have the answer: What is your test...

How Does Money Become a Problem in Relationship?

January 2019 Newsletter Does money crop up as a problem in your relationship? Many couples have told us that money is often a problem in their relationship whether they have very little money, enough money, or a lot of money! We stumbled on a key to this conundrum in...

Getting Your Relationships in Shape

January 2019 Newsletter Why is it that every January you get bombarded with advertisements and promotions for getting your body in shape, but you don’t get ads for getting your relationships in shape? Probably because not many people make new year’s resolutions to...

“You Are SO Exasperating!”

Do you ever find yourself really exasperated in a relationship—at home or at work? What do you think produces that exasperation? You know that you don’t cause it, because you really don’t like being exasperated. You would never be exasperated if it were up to you. So...

What Legacies Are Your Relationships Leaving in Their Wake?

Eventually, most people give some thought to the inheritance they’ll leave when they die: the money, property, possessions. Maybe you’ve thought about how you, as an individual, want to be remembered when you’re gone—an intangible legacy that you’ll leave with others....

I Want This Relationship to Last!

(Thoughts on enduring relationships, from Carol & Paul) When we began our love affair, we weren’t a couple of teenagers in love – although we acted that way sometimes. We were both 55; we had four marriages behind us that had ended in divorce or death; and we...

When is it Time to Leave a Relationship?

You will probably find as many different answers to the question as the number of people you ask, even though some may be similar.   But the question begs another question that is worthwhile considering, a question to which only you have the answer: What is your test...

Getting Your Relationships in Shape

January 2019 Newsletter Why is it that every January you get bombarded with advertisements and promotions for getting your body in shape, but you don’t get ads for getting your relationships in shape? Probably because not many people make new year’s resolutions to...

“You Are SO Exasperating!”

Do you ever find yourself really exasperated in a relationship—at home or at work? What do you think produces that exasperation? You know that you don’t cause it, because you really don’t like being exasperated. You would never be exasperated if it were up to you. So...

What Legacies Are Your Relationships Leaving in Their Wake?

Eventually, most people give some thought to the inheritance they’ll leave when they die: the money, property, possessions. Maybe you’ve thought about how you, as an individual, want to be remembered when you’re gone—an intangible legacy that you’ll leave with others....

Is Your Relationship a Private Island?

 A reflection from Carol and Paul ...  Our love affair began with an unofficial motto: “We get to make it up.” That triumphant insight came from the 56 years of life that had flowed under the bridge before we found each other. Marriages, divorces and bereavement had...

Why Relationships Don’t Last?!

Recently we came across an article titled, Divorce Counselor Reveals Reasons Marriages Don’t Last, written on a popular blog website, some of the reasons given were: Love is not enough for a successful marriage. Marriage is a business contract (not a love affair)....

Is your relationship stuck in reverse?

Are you trying to move your relationship forward while putting it in reverse? It doesn’t work when driving a car, and it doesn’t work in relationships either. Most people are unaware of putting their relationship in reverse precisely because it happens automatically...

Transforming Relationships

At Relationship By Design, our work is based on the premise that transformation occurs when you confront reality exactly as it is. Once you stop resisting reality and attempting to fix or improve it, you experience peace, freedom and an opening for creativity in your...

The Mathematics of Relationship

  If you  were to describe a human relationship simply as one person plus another, you would receive little argument from anyone. It's the way people think. The way people ordinarily look at relationships can be described mathematically as 1+1 = 2. Remember the famous...

A Relationship Isn’t a Title

Families can sometimes seem complicated. But the experience of family is really quite simple... and profound. When we were married in 2004, Paul had a stepdaughter by his previous wife, who had died just two years earlier. While I wanted to be a mother to his...

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