We are an enterprise dedicated to the proposition that relationship is the most important aspect of human existence and is fundamental to every human being’s experience of being known, valued and fulfilled.

We believe that being in close relationship with another and others is the natural state of being human, and that certain [heretofore unseen] mechanisms often get in the way of the experience of freedom, peace and ease that is natural to relationship.

We have found that while no one escapes the mechanisms, they are not personal.

Therefore, we do not work at changing or fixing individuals. We do not engage in therapy. We design and produce workshops and coaching in which you discover for yourself the mechanisms that undermine relationships, as well as [universal] access to extraordinary relationships.

Our intention is that you gain “mastery in the art of relationships.”

Catalina Finnell

Dispelling the fantasies and unattainable ideals of family gave me a ton of freedom.

Josh Kurtz

A real insight for me is that I don’t have to fix everything or everyone. What I’ve gotten out of the workshop has already relieved a lot of stress.

Wes and Beth Jankowski

After being married nearly 30 years life can become routine and ordinary. We learned to add “EXTRA” to our ordinary.


Relationship Workshops

Relationships are fundamental to the well being, fulfillment and happiness for all of us. If you are committed to having relationships filled with wonder and appreciation, but find issues or the lack of understanding getting in the way, RelationshipByDesign can help you fulfill your commitment.

Relationship Coaching

We provide personalized coaching programs for any type of relationship — couples, family members, business partners, co-workers, or friends.

Resources & Lessons

Transforming Relationships

Transforming Relationships

At Relationship By Design, our work is based on the premise that transformation occurs when you confront reality exactly as it is. Once you stop resisting reality and attempting to fix or improve it, you experience peace, freedom and an opening for creativity in your...

The Mathematics of Relationship

The Mathematics of Relationship

If you  were to describe a human relationship simply as one person plus another, you would receive little argument from anyone. It's the way people think. The way people ordinarily look at relationships can be described mathematically as 1 + 1. A relationship is one...

A Relationship Isn’t a Title

A Relationship Isn’t a Title

Families can sometimes seem complicated. But the experience of family is really quite simple... and profound. When we were married in 2004, Paul had a stepdaughter by his previous wife, who had died just two years earlier. While I wanted to be a mother to his...

Your Experience of Relationship

Your Experience of Relationship

Your experience of relationship is all a matter of where you are standing and looking from. Often we are so intrigued by what we are looking at that we fail to appreciate that what we see is determined by where we are looking from. You will discover more about...